It is so crazy to think this Summer will be 5 years since I have been a stay home mom. Whew! I look back at having this one little infant compared to these three crazy toddlers and think how in the world was I overwhelmed then?! The truth is it truly doesn’t matter how many kids you are at home with it can be a difficult road. Mama, don’t ever get in the comparison trap of she does this and stay’s at home or she has this many kids and has real pants on every single day. The truth is we are all wired very different and we all have different capacities. I am naturally SUPER driven. Many people look at being driven as only a positive thing but the truth is this can also lead to isolation. I don’t know about you but I have looked up half way through my week and realized we have only left the house when absolutely necessary and have not had much socialization at all. I happen to work from home full time as well so this is super easy for me to do. Although when my little people are losing it and I feel like I can’t breath I quickly realize oh hey we should probably socialize. I thought I would put together some tips for SAHM’s that would be helpful to our day to day lives.
With my driven personality comes a desire for structure. I have noticed my entire family hubby and myself included totally strives on a thought out routine. With three toddlers under four our hours in the day or in public at least are definitely limited. I have a day to day schedule for staying at home where my kids know as well what to expect next. This makes meal times as well as nap/bed time so much easier on everyone. Hardly ever is it a surprise to anyone that it is time to sit down and eat or that it is time to get ready to go to sleep. Not only does this make the kiddos way more cooperative it takes the stress off of me! Our schedule is very flexible but it does help everyone know when we will have TV/Ipad time, snack time, and time to be outside or go somewhere. I sit down once a week and plan out our menu for the week as well as budget. We have online grocery pick up (praise hands) I take my menu add all of our items to my cart and pick up groceries every Thursday morning. This not only helps us stay in our grocery budget but this keeps me from making trips to the store throughout the week.
2. Do a little every day
I have tried tons of different ways to keep up with household chores. What I have quickly learned that works best for me is to do a little bit of something every day. At lunch and dinner times I always do dishes and a load of laundry. I start it at lunch, switch it over at dinner and fold it….well…ya know whenever 😉 The kiddos help me do a generic pick up of toys/clothes and anything else before lunch and before dinner. This helps everyone wake up to a picked up house! Of course this is not something we succeed at all the time but it helps keep everything manageable. Our house gets deep cleaned about twice a month. Either by my saving grace Claudia that comes in bi weekly or myself if that is something not in our monthly budget. If Claudia is not coming I will do it on a night when I can have the kids at a church activity or out with daddy and go room by room!
3. Take a break
No I do not mean just that one hour of Netflix before bed while you are attempting to fold a load of laundry that someone will likely knock over the next morning. For a bit I would leave at 5 o clock every Wednesday when Chase got home. I would have dinner ready and the kids started and I would slip out as they sat down with daddy drive 3 blocks to Sonic get a happy hour coke and read an Ibook on my phone. Just because you are a stay at home mom does not mean you don’t have permission to take care of yourself. My kiddos are at Mother’s Day Out twice a week, Chase and I know this is not only important for my job that I am able to have time without them but it is important for me. Taking a break for myself allows me to be a better mom. This goes for working Mama’s as well. Take care of yourself! 🙂
PS- I would love to chat or share more about our day to day routine or just chat. I know sometimes a SAHM can be lonely and I pray this is a community of women and mothers that can connect, chat, and encourage one another. I grabbed this swing dress from Old Navy sometime last year and it is seriously the softest material ever. I love to throw my hair in a bun wearing a sports bra and Nike flip flops for a more casual look. I grabbed this vest I thrifted off a Facebook closet clean out and paired with peep toed booties for Church. Shop this look by clicking the pics in the outfit details below!
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